Lic. Moira Nardi - Psychologist

The reasons can be diverse and undoubtedly unique to each subject, which is why it is not effective to use universal recipes as part of the analytical device. Not all people respond in the same way to situations or challenges that life presents to them. This therapeutic approach advises against universal or magical solutions. Each person recognizes a moment that is their own, unique. Sometimes it is a discomfort, a more or less diffuse feeling of anguish. Other times, it is great pain, enormous desperation, a situation that repeats itself. On other occasions, suffering related to some symptom or difficulty is recognized, such as a sleep disorder, an eating disorder, fears, anxiety, depression, phobias or multiple types of addictions. It is appropriate to consult when we are distressed, when we cannot solve conflictive family, couple or work situations. Also, when our strategies are no longer effective and we find ourselves repeating hurtful patterns. Generally speaking, it is good to ask for a consultation when we cease to understand what is happening to us or if a question arises of how we arrived at that extreme situation that undoubtedly brings suffering or discomfort. It is then when the professional ethical commitment opens a space that seeks to solve both singular problems and those others specific to the era in which we are immersed.
It is important to clarified that not all consultations lead to the beginning of an analysis.

The choice of an analyst is the correct one when, at the beginning of the interaction, no major differences in styles generate tensions or obstacles to communicate. As an example, a silent person with certain inhibitions in expression who encounters a not very active analyst, will son experience apathy and boredom and the transferential scene will be problematic. The opposite can also be valid, a very talkative analyst can prevent a patient to talk.
The importance of the choice lies in the fact that the destiny of an analysis depends largely on the appropriate initial encounter of two subjects in transference, so it is necessary for both therapist and the person looking for treatment, to mutually choose each other in order to decipher the enigma of the symptoms and the patient's suffering. It has to feel a good match.
Sometimes, the analyst's theoretical orientation or preference prevails as a guide in the selection process, but it is important that the theory does not operate as a resistance that leads to a simulation of analysis. Faithfulness then is not to the truth that reveals the unconscious desire, but to the master whose theory it adheres to or imitates. This does not mean that a preference in the selection of an analyst, such as their theoretical framework, gender, age, experience, etc., should be ignored. The desirable thing is to form a therapeutic pair marked by a good transference encounter, where an analyst chooses their patient freely, without hidden motivations or commercial interests. The analyst's choice of a particular patient should be oriented towards the possibility of analyzing under conditions that do not cause discomfort generally motivated by ideological, moral, or even conceptual questions that undermine their most essential ethical values and their deepest theoretical convictions.
How can one know before this private encounter that it will be a good encounter? The analytic method must produce the best conditions for the deployment of transference, avoiding the sacrifice demanded by therapeutic frameworks that are too rigid or too loose. Often, and from the perspective of patients, it is common for members of some sexual, ethnic or religious minorities to seek analysts who share their values, as they imagine that this will facilitate the therapeutic relationship. However, shared codes and idiosyncrasies often form areas that are not approachable in such analyses (one could call them “blind spots” perhaps), which results in the insistence of symptomatological cores irreducible to any elaboration.
The analytic space is the only place endorsed by a social contract where personal wounds can be talked about, and where new possibilities are attempted to be explored, without feeling judged or conditioned by the therapist. Choosing an analyst is designating another person with whom you will write a new life story. Whatever is shared in the analytical space is protected by the most strict professional ethical confidentiality code.